Ob-liv-ios-city - (the essence of being oblivious of how you effect others by your words)

Hey everyone,

I wanted to share with you some of the things people have felt they want to share with me when they don't even know me. For example...at work when people see the belly they feel it is an invitation to discuss my pregnancy with them. There are the general questions like -when are you due, is it a boy or girl, how are you feeling...and those just get aggravating because you know these people are simply nosy, they don't really care. My favorite example of Obliviousity is when people respond to my answers to the stupid questions...so they ask when are you due...i say June 1st and they say things along he lines of ohmygosh your huge and you still have so much longer to go. Seriously, never say "your huge" to a pregnant person you don't know. EVER! Or one of my favorites is "have you decided to breast feed?" from a perfect stranger...um don't ask people you don't know about their boobs. I actually had to argue with one customer about why i wanted to have an epidural. I will have an epidural and if you don't like it then you can have this baby for me. And June 1st is not that far away people. I think the worst case of Obliviousity was a few days ago. I don't wear my wedding ring right now because i am a little swollen, and a customer came up to me when i was wearing my fake one from Clair's and asked to see my ring. I said its fake...and she cut me off to say "well its nice, but you really should be married if your pregnant." Yes she did. Canyoubelieveit?? Unwanted advisement is something that people struggle with all the time. I a trying ot be more self aware of this. I do not want to be a victim of obliviously ever. I also hope you are not one of htose people who go up to pregnant people you don't know and touch their bellies. I mean if you really feel compelled at least ask. If you have a relationship with this person then still its always nice to be asked before people put their cold or sweaty hands all over you. You are growing htis thing that somehow has more value to you than anything every has in your life ever, and people want to touch you...oh no. no no no. People i am just trying to share wiht you some of the greatness that has come wiht being obviously pregnant. Along with all the other pleasantries that have come with my body changing and such. Well i hope you enjoyed this little dissertation. Have a nice day and remember don't ask or tell or touch unless you really do care about the person.